How to Stop a
Veteran Detective Mike Proctor
Tells You: How to identify a stalker, how they stalk and why they do it, what to do
if you are being stalked, how to collect evidence, how to get the justice system on your
side, and what to do in court.
If you are a victim of a stalker or suspect
that you might be, this book will give you the means, not only to protect yourself, but
ultimately to put the stalker behind bars. Veteran detective Mike Proctor, who has
investigated and consulted on over 110 stalking cases (all of which have been successfully
prosecuted), has written this essential survival guide for anyone who becomes the target
of one of these sociopaths. Proctor lays out the typical patterns of stalker behavior:
leaving bizarre gifts and notes; vandalism; surveillance; persistent contact through
various means of harassment (phones, pagers, letters); breaking and entering, either to
steal some personal item or just to let the victim know that his or her privacy has been
violated: and a host of other nuisance tactics, including harassment of family members and
family pets, filing legal actions, disrupting utility services, and threats of violence.
With his wealth of experience, Proctor offers keen insights into the pathological mindset
of the stalker: For example, stalking problems often arise in a situation of domestic
violence; many stalkers are fantasy driven, often believing that the victim is in love
with them; they rarely take responsibility for their actions, blaming others for making
them do what they do; most have stalked more than one person; and revenge by disgruntled
employees against a business associates or employers is also an increasingly common motive
This excellent handbook on a serious social
problem will be of great use to current or potential stalking victims, law enforcement
officials, personnel departments, and employers.
How to Be
Invisible Revised Edition
The Essential Guide to Protecting Your
Personal Privacy, Your Assets, and Your Life.
Sweeping changes since
9/11 have encroached upon personal privacy as never before. This
new edition of J.J. Luna's classic manual covers everything from
driver's licenses and pizza deliveries to anonymous ownership of
vehicles and real estate.
FROM CYBERSPACE TO CRAWL
SPACES, innovations in information gathering have left the private life
of the average person open to scrutiny and, worse, exploitation.
In this thoroughly revised update of his immensely popular guide How To
Be Invisible, J.J. Luna shows you how to protect yourself from these
information predators by securing your vehicle and real estate
ownership, your bank accounts, your business dealings, your computer
files, your home address, and more.
J.J. Luna, a highly
trained and experienced security consultant, shows you how to achieve
the privacy you crave and deserve, whether you just want to shield
yourself from casual scrutiny or take your life savings with you and
disappear without a trace. Whatever your needs, Luna reveals the
shocking secrets of private detectives and other seekers of personal
information and then shows how to make a serious commitment to
There is a prevailing
sense in our society that true privacy is a thing of the past.
Filled with vivid real-life stories drawn from the headlines and from
Luna's own consulting experience, How to Be Invisible, Revised Edition
is a critical antidote to the privacy concerns that continue only to
grow in magnitude as new and more efficient ways of undermining our
personal security are made available. Privacy is a commonly
lamented casualty of the Information Age and of the world's changing
climate - but that doesn't mean you have to stand for it.
For additional information on maintaining
your privacy, go to
http://canaryislandspress.com. See the Q & A page, and check
out the following book:
Dirty Tricks for Savvy Chicks
How to use small but effective weapons for self defense.
The author can be contacted at
JJL@canaryislandpress.com. For a
faster response, put E.S.I.A. in the subject line.
The Gift of
Survival Signals That Protect
Us From Violence by Gavin de Becker
We all know there are plenty of reasons to fear people from
time to time. The question is, what are those times? A stranger in a deserted
parking lot offers to help carry a woman's groceries. Is he a good Samaritan or is
he after something else? A fired employee says, "you'll be sorry."
Will be return with a gun? After their first date, a man tells a woman it is their
"destiny" to be together. What will he do when she rejects him? A
teenager is obsessed with "death metal" music and fascinated with guns.
Is he going to kill someone? A mother has an uneasy feeling about the nice
baby-sitter she's just hired. Should she cancel her plans? A man is threatened
by his girlfriend's angry ex-husband. Should he go to the police?
Now, Gavin de Becker, the nation's leading expert on
predicting violent behavior, proves that we are all qualified to answer life's
highest-stakes questions. "True fear is a gift," he says, because it is a
survival signal that sounds only in the presence of danger; yet unwarranted fear has
assumed a power over us that it holds over no other creature on earth. It need not
be this way.
In this extraordinary, groundbreaking book, de Becker shows
that you can already predict violent behavior. Through dozens of compelling stories
from his own career, he lays out the pieces of the human violence puzzle and shows how you
can solve it by paying attention to the subtle - and sometimes blatant - signals of
intuition. As he says, "you can refuse to be a victim."
Filled with unique and surprising insights into human
behavior, The Gift of Fear will help you separate real from imagined danger, give you
confidence in a sometimes threatening world, and make your life measurably safer.
Paul E. Mullen, Michele Pathe, Rosemary Purcell
Over recent years, stalking has emerged as a major social
and legal issue, and also as a clinical problem for mental health professionals.
This absorbing and informative book draws on the authors' extensive experience of
working with stalkers and their victims in the clinical setting, and makes a major
contribution toward understanding the nature, causes, impact and management of stalking.
Topics included: The growing recognition of stalking as an
issue of public legal and scientific concern. The definition, classification and
epidemiology of stalking. The impact on victims, and how this may be reduced. Same-gender
stalking, stalking by proxy, workplace stalking, and the stalking of professionals, such
as doctors and teachers. The association of stalking with physical and sexual
assault. Anti-stalking laws internationally. Support and practical advice for
victims of stalking. Assessing and managing the stalker.
With many case histories, and an approach that is at once
scholarly and highly practical, this will be the definitive guide and reference for anyone
with a professional or academic interest in this complex behavior.
The Psychology of
Edited by J. Reid Meloy
The Psychology of Stalking is the first scholarly book on
stalking ever published. Virtually every serious writer and researcher in this area
of criminal psychopathology has contributed to this comprehensive resource. These
chapters explore stalking from social, psychiatric, psychological, legal, and behavioral
perspectives. New thinking and data are presented on threats, pursuit
characteristics, psychiatric diagnoses, offender - victim typologies, cyberstalking, false
victimization syndrome, erotomania, stalking and domestic violence, stalking of public
figures, and many more aspects of stalking. This landmark text is of interest to
both professionals and other thoughtful individuals who recognize the serious nature of
this ominous social behavior at the end of the millennium.
Everything You Need To
Know To Keep Yourself Safe by Linden Gross
Most people believe that stalkers only target the rich and
famous, not the average citizen. The truth is, stalking is one of the most prevalent
yet overlooks forms of domestic violence in America today, with an estimated 1.4 million
people nationwide stalked each year. And that figure does not even include the
rising number of people being harassed on the Internet.
Surviving A Stalker, the ultimate practical guidebook to
surviving stalking, provides all the necessary tools you need to handle obsessive
attention and to regain control of your life. Journalist and stalking expert Linden
Gross offers a wealth of invaluable guidance, including: How to recognize and control
those natural reactions that might put you at risk. How to handle inappropriate
attention on-and off-line and break the stalking cycle. How to protect your privacy
and safety as well as that of your loved ones.
Gross explains how these dangerous obsessions begin, the
patterns they take, and what potential victims can do before the nightmare becomes a
reality. Though a multitude of case studies, medical and other professionals who
deal with stalking will gain a clearer understanding of the crime, the toll it takes, and
how to handle it.
Surviving A Stalker will help all victims, as well as
potential victims, keep themselves safe and be a vital resource for all professionals who
How to save your
privacy, your sanity, and your life by Lyn Bates
Stalking is a serious crime that disproportionately affects
and endangers women. The Nation Institute of Justice says one in every 12 women and
one in every 20 men will be stalked in their lifetimes.
Some stalkers make phone calls, send messages, or deliver
"gifts." Some follow their victims home, vandalize property, make threats,
or kill pets. Some stalkers even attempt rape, kidnapping, or murder. And some
succeed. Being the target of an obsessed person is a frightening experience.
But it isn't necessary to live in fear. Leering how to be safe is the the key.
Topics include: Who stalks, who is stalked, and why.
Evaluating the seriousness of the situation. Replacing terror with sensible
precautions. Restraining orders - good or bad. Disappearing - why, when and
how. Protecting your children. Self defense - what works, what doesn't.
Safety on a budget. Maintaining your privacy. Strategies that don't work.
Helpful web sites and organizations.
Using scenarios based on real stalking cases, this book
overflows with detailed, practical strategies to put you in control of your situation, and
let you break the cycle of terror.
Mistakes by the legal system, employers, or even family
members can make the situation worse. If you work with stalking victims, or are
concerned about one, you need this information, too.
Surviving the Hidden Terror
Paula LaRue, M.S.
Don't let a stalker take control of your life! Are
you being followed? Receiving unwanted phone calls, or gifts? Does someone
appear at your work, or leave messages on your car?
Stalking in a crime that can send terror racing through a
victim's body. It can develop slowly and escalate to physical violence, even murder.
Until recently, little help was available to stalking
victims. Victims have had to move and change their lives. But now, there is
hope. An increasing number of stalking victims are reclaiming their lives.
STALKING: Surviving the Hidden Terror explains stalking,
how to avoid becoming a victim, and what to do if you are being stalked. It will
explore the role and process of the police and the judicial system. It will examine
the reaction of friends, family, the police, co-workers and even the victims themselves.
It tells the real life stories of actual stalking victims who are winning the
battle against their stalkers. People who, against all odds, refused to give up
control of their lives.
Stalking: A Handbook for Victims
If your reading this, chances are a stalker has begun to
rob you of your sense of control over your life. You may be overwhelmed and unsure
of where to turn next. If so, this book is for you. It is written under the
guiding belief that knowledge is power. By arming you with resources, choices,
safety tips and stalker information; I hope you will be able to turn the tide against the
stalker and regain some power and control over you life.
I want to first emphasize the purpose of this book is to
present you with options not directions. It is a handbook not an instruction manual.
There is no "one size fits all" approach to stalking intervention.
As you gather information, please know that you must make the choices that work best for
you. Trust your gut feelings. If I have I have discussed an option that you
believe won't work for you - by all means disregard it! Police officers, counselors,
victim advocates, prosecutors, friends, co-workers and family are all part of a team
intended to help you - but you are the team leader.
I wish to commend you for taking steps to gain back
control. You are experiencing one of the very worst crimes against humanity.
You may be feeling isolated, misunderstood and terrified - a prisoner in your own
home. I sincerely hope that the information you find here will arm you with helpful
knowledge and shed light on the path towards healing and safety. Though there are no
easy answers, please know that you are not alone. Help is out there and together we
can wage a war against this insidious crime.
I Know You
Doreen Orion, M.D.
A psychiatrist's account of stalking and obsessive
love. Locked in a ward of an Arizona psychiatric hospital, the patient called Fran
looked harmless, even ordinary. Meeting her, psychiatrist Doreen Orion had no
warning that Fran suffered from erotomania, the bizarre mental disorder that causes
stalkers to believe their victims are in love with them - and no inkling that she would be
the next target of Fran's twisted, dangerous mind.
Now Dr. Orion reveals how she has been spied upon,
accosted, and hunted for eight years, living in fear of her life and the lives of those
closest to her. Changing her address and job, getting restraining orders and having
Fran arrested, have all failed to end Fran's obsessive behavior, which continues to this
Recounting the ordeals of Madonna, David Letterman, and
scores of others who have been terrorized by stalkers, Dr. Orion alerts potential victims
to this increasingly deadly disorder - and tells what society must do to protect us all
from those who would kill for love.
World of The Psychopaths Among Us
Dr. Robert D. Hare
We often think of psychopaths as the disturbed criminals
who capture headlines and crowd the nation's prisons. But not all psychopaths are
killers. They are more likely to be men and women you know who move through life
with supreme self-confidence but without a conscience. Based on twenty-five years of
groundbreaking research, Without Conscience is a fascinating journey into the minds of
these dangerous individuals, many of whom: live on the edge, often changing jobs, schools,
relationships, and homes, never feel guilty - even when they are caught, act cold and
distant one moment and intensely emotional the next, lack empathy living for the moment
without regard for the welfare of others, scheme their way into money, power, and
In fact, psychopaths have none of the hallmarks of mental
illness. They appear normal, but they're not - they are manipulative, dangerous
individuals who live and work in our communities, often leaving behind a wake of broken
hearts, empty wallets and ruined lives. Are they born heartless, or created by
circumstance? How and why do they get away with cheating, conning and murder?
Are they mad or simply bad? How can we recognize and steer clear of these predatory
people? From society's most notorious killers to little-known, everyday hustlers,
Without Conscience explores the psychopath's shocking patterns and exposes one of the most
frightening, often-hidden social problems affecting our lives today.
The Stalking of